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[Pic:] "You know what's sexy? A real conversation." - Spirit Science

[Pic:] Nothing is sexier than a man or a woman who can face temptation and have the level of maturity to say 'this isn't worth losing what I have."

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"I'm beginning to fall for another person.. my girl's just too plain...That's life - full of temptations but don't be deceived by those things because didn't you realize that there are people who are also greater than you? Yet, she chose you."

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What is the definition of a "lothario" (womanizer)

Slang. This only applies if he is selfish.If he is open and honest about what he wants that is different. Just because a man likes sex or having sex with different women doesn't mean he is a "lothario"

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different types of love :Romantic, Platonic, passionate @ Hissmonster

See explanations @ Hiss Monster

Lust vs Love: Do You Know the Difference?

"Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy--it often dissipates when the "real person" surfaces. It's the stage of wearing rose colored glasses when he or she "can do no wrong." Being in love doesn't exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love. However, real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other. Here are some signs to watch for to differentiate pure lust from love.

SIGNS OF LUST

1. You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.
2. You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
3. You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
4. You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning.
5. You are lovers, but not friends.

SIGNS OF LOVE

1. You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
2. You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
3. You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.
4. He or she motivates you to be a better person.
5. You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
6. Another challenge of sexual attraction is learning to stay centered and listen to your gut in the early stages of being with someone. This isn't easy in the midst of hormones surging, but it's essential to make healthy relationship decisions. Here are some tips to help you keep your presence of mind when you're attracted to someone. This needn't pull the plug on passion, but it'll make you more aware so you don't go looking for trouble."

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17 Ways To Seem More Attractive That Have Nothing To Do With Your Appearance

""There is no shame in wanting to be more attractive to those around you, but if you do not want that desire to affect how you prefer to dress, do your hair, apply your makeup (or not), and anything else appearance-based, then don’t fret! Besides changing your birth certificate so that you have an inherently hot name, there are plenty of things you can do to seem more attractive to others."
1. Take interest in what they’re saying.
2. Actively engage.
3. Be good at and care about things!
4. Make sure you smell great.
5. Be decisive.
6. Be direct.
7. Determine your best qualities
8. Accept humor.
9. Be ambitious, driven, and put-together.
10. Hygiene, hygiene, hygiene.
11. Have interests outside of work.
12. Behave confidently.
13. Read!
14. Drink more water. Yes, really.
15. Speak directly, surely, and efficiently.
16. Don’t be a smoker.
17. Be a kind person.
See explanations @ The Gloss

Looks have nothing to do with sexiness....

Looks have nothing to do with sexiness.
However, no matter how many people tell you it's what is on the inside that counts, that is not always true.  I've seen people who are so ugly even femnazi's would cringe....get guys hotter than Ryan Gosling. It does not have to do weight how skinny, or curvy a woman is.It does not have to do with how swuave  or how much money a guy makes.
Above all... keep yourself clean and beautiful/handsome

1. How good you are in bed:

• and realize that penis/breast size has nothing to do with how good you are in bed.
• if you want to be the "perfect" "Madonna/Whore or Gentlemen/ Bad Boy (:P) see my post

2. NLP skills:

3. Confidence with loving oneself &  Self Love

4. Open minded and accepting of all sizes, ages, races, genders, sexual orientations

• Accept all sizes and understand that ALL sizes can be healthy
• and 
• practice fighting for human rights

5. Exercise (doesn't matter what size you are, fat or thin, skinny or muscular).Exercising releases endorphin and keeps the body nice
Even if you are bigger, you should exercise (see my exercise category @ Chunkealthy Life)

6. Personality:

• Funny
• Smart

7. Pheromones. - stay away from synthetics beauty products and processed foods

8. Responsible:

• Manage time
• Be organized

9. Have a job

10. Have manners

 11. Learn home ec stuff

and of course... keep yourself clean and beautiful/handsome

Chakra oppression/oppression of things we do that are natural by WLI (updated April 2015)

The compassion to Chakras is just to have some kind o visual to compare this to. What society says and how it tries to oppress and control natural urges and why THEY are wrong. SO many normal things that society,media and the medical field tells us is wrong.They link to either categories at my sites, my blog posts and sometimes outside sources. 

We are controlled by words/ideas such as :
"willpower," 
"being/be in control of your own body by NOT eating too much, not having sex too much, having sex ENOUGH,etc." - even though we WERE until these people tried telling us we were not. They tell us this to do the opposite, so THEY can be in control of our body.


Society  wants to mold us/you and control our bodies, thoughts and feelings. They want to banish out natural instincts and mold us into something that is all the same.

Many times, this is the cause to our depression, anxiety,etc. in which they conveniently provide pills,therapy and medications for us.
Churches try to recruit us, doctors try to give us meds to make us feel better,and the magazines and media try to tell us to obey them and get help for something we shouldn't need help with anyway. We get depressed because we are told what to eat, how may times a day to eat, how many times a day to have sex, how to have sex, how to feel, which feelings are "Validated" by society and what ways are wrong and which ways we eat, have feelings, and have sex are socially "acceptable"
"Modern morality and manners suppress all natural instincts, keep people ignorant of the facts of nature and make them fighting drunk on bogey tales." - Aleister Crowley (Brainy Quote)

**Some of the numbers are messed up, I'm not sure why I can't correct them.

-From Fat!So by Marilyn Wann

Crown

1. Stating Enthogens are evil, bad
2. Medicating people with pharmaceutical drugs
3. Medicating Women’s Feelings by Julie Holland from NY Times
4. Read Moody Bitches: The Truth About the Drugs You're Taking, The Sleep You're Missing, The Sex You're Not Having, and What's Really Making You Crazy  by Julie Holland 
5. Feeling Intense Emotions Doesn’t Make You Crazy — But That’s Not What Big Pharma Wants You to Think byby Allegra Kirkland  
6. Electric Shock Therapy 
1.  10 Myths and Facts About Shock Therapy
7. Lobotomy
    
   

Throat

1. Communication Addiction Disorder
2. A trait of narcissism is "talking too much"
3. If you can't "sing correctly" you are told to not sing at all.
4. Certain words are looked down upon
5. The George Carlin 7 Dirty Words case
6. The Lenny Bruce case
7. Federal Communications Commission
8. 2 Live Crew's 1990 arrest
9. People arrested at protests (protesting is a "voice)
10. Disorderly conduct  (not talking about fighting, but swearing in a non-violent manner)

Heart

1. We are shamed for being sad, happy or showing any emotions.
2. Medicating Women’s Feelings by Julie Holland from NY Times
3. Attachment styles are “bad” instead of acknowledging that we all have a different kind of attachment style and attachment needs.

Solar Plexus

1. Binge Eating Disorder (eat what you want, as long as it's healthy-of course :) -tells us we can’t eat a lot)
   • Stop feeling guilty about binge eating WLI - blog post
   • Stop feeling guilty about binge eating resource page @ Chunkealthy Life

1. Diet industry
2. "Fat isn't healthy" clams (you can be fat and healthy just eat whole foods and exercise whole minimizing stress-just like a person who is skinny *gasp* :O)
3. Doctors prescribing Weight Loss Surgery for people who do not need it (for "preventive" reasons although the person is healthy. Instead of helping the person eat healthier and exercise more- numerous health professionals think the solution is weight loss when that is not always the case)
4. If someone is overweight and suffers from Body Dysmorphia, numerous times (although, not all) they are told to "lose weight" instead of being taught to accept their body.
5. In praise of appetites - from Fat!So?
6. • WLS /Weight Loss drugs (these are horrible,evil and bad)
   • Fat, so! by Marilyn Wann-talks about dangers of Bariatric surgery/Diet drugs/etc.
   • HGC Diet  vs Bariatric surgery
   • Dangers of diet pills - from Fat!So? By Marilyn Wann
   • 'My gastric bypass ruined my life - now I can only eat ice cubes'
   • The miracle weight loss that isn't
   • Is Belviq just Fen-Fen in disguise?
   • Study: Obesity Surgery May Not End Sleep Apnea
   • Marshals Seize Company's Illegal Diet Supplements
   • Patient Awarded $4.25M after Botched Gastric Surgery at Army Hospital  "Surgeons claim fat people won't live to see our children grow up without stomach amputation. Keep this woman's tragic story in mind whenever you hear these lies. Also: She weighed 189 pounds when they cut nearly all her stomach off." Marilyn Wann
   • Gran warns she wishes she'd not had gastric bypass as surgery figures hit four-year high (From Herald Series) 
8. Sex & Food “addiction” - Who says how much is “too much” of something that is natural. That is like saying we have a certain amount of air we can breathe.
1. Stop feeling guilty about binge eating WLI - blog post
2. Stop feeling guilty about binge eating resource page @ Chunkealthy Life
10. Fast, Feast, and Flesh: The Religious Significance of Food to Medieval Women. Caroline Walker Bynum
11. Orthorexia (tells us we can’t eat whole foods. Because not wanting to eat  chemical filled foods that are known and have been proven to cause cancer and other diseases is a “disorder”, right?)
12. How people are now shamed for not eating a lot of food (not talking about anorexia) and for watching their calories  and being a calorie watcher. If I want to be a certain weight that should be okay, stop food and body policing.
14. Food policing:
• Telling fat people to lose weight to prevent diseases is like..
• Why are we shamed for something so natural by WLI
• Should I lose/gain weight, get penis/breast enlargement?
• Doctor/medical field/ society (focus mostly on medical field) vs overtall/undertall
• How sex and food are similar collection @ Trello
• Eating unhealthy, but watching calories is vanity, not health [update:] so don't dictate how someone else eats
• [Pic:] Don't comment on a person's weight gain.... stop body policing. by WLI
• FDA/Medical/pharmaceutical vs beauty/hollywood/diet/plastic surgery industry
15. Pressure to lose weight
• [Pic:] "When someone has 300 pounds of muscle that is fine...fat..is...bad to carry...." by WLI
• "concerned people" who are actually bigots hide behind...by WLI
• Thanks for being concerned about "my" health...by WLI
• Scumbag Diet Products by WLI
• **Mom says daughter died from taking diet pills | HLNtv.com  - they literally burned her from the inside out
17. Fat shaming surivial series by WLI: Can Be found @ Chunkealthy Life
19. Sex & Food Oppression (simple version) - by WLI
20. Dieting vs Sexual Abstinence by WLI
21. Food Lover Spectrum/Chart by WLI
23. Is extreme medical weight loss tactics a form of aversion therapy? by WLI
24. How food and sex are similar series by WLI: Can be found @ Chunkealthy Life
25. “She told me my back pain was because I had weight in my belly and I needed to go to a nutritionist to lose my belly weight,” Rahm recalled in an interview Thursday. Because she was normal weight, 5 feet 4 and 125 pounds, Rahm was surprised at the diagnosis. She visited the nutritionist, tried acupuncture and yoga, but the pain only got worse." - Kaiser ordered to pay woman more than $28 million
26. "the belly is the home of the second chakra: Svadhisthana, or ‘Sweetness’. This chakra, one of the three ‘root’ chakras is related to the emotions, water and sexuality. It helps us connect to others through our feelings, desires and sensations, brings us fluidity and grace, depth of feeling, sexual fulfillment and ability to accept change!" Write a Love Letter to Your Sweet Belly @ Zoe Waggoner

Sacral

2. Slut shaming - shaming someone for having sex a lot even though he or she is safe about it.
• The 3 biggest myths about pornography, debunked by Belle Knox
3. Sex Addiction 
4. "Provocative" is seen as a symptom of Histrionic Personality Disorder which could be seen as trying to oppress sexual desires and openness (not HPD, but some of the "symptoms")
5. Asexuality /grey-A labeled as a disorder - Hypoactive sexual desire disorder  “cure” (tells us we have to have sex that simply not feeling attracted to others is “bad” and that we must want sex)
   • Virgin shaming @ love & Lust 13:4-7
   • Alternative attractions @ love & lust 13:4-7
6. Avoidant detachment style
7. Celibacy - when seen as bad, wrong, or negative
8. Mae West's play she wrote and stared in called Sex was controversial 
9. Playboy controversy
10. The decision to Circumcision
11. Female genital mutilation
12. You can be arrested /shamed for breast feeding a child
13. Indecent exposure
14. My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday was controversial because it was seen as uncommon for women to have sexual fantasies.
15. Trying to treat fetishes/ paraphilias (not talking about pedophilia,actual rape or actual murder....)
16. BDSM is seen as a mental illness (Sadistic personality disorder)or the result of a mental illness, when the opposite is true. 

• People into BDSM no longer considered mentally ill.
• BDSM, Personality and Mental Health BDSM practitioners prefer roles that fit their personalities

     16. This article: Psychology & BDSM: Pathology or Individual Difference? makes amazingly great points about sexual oppression
   17. Gay to straight therapies ("Conversion therapy") 
   18. Hypersexuality (tells us we shouldn’t have sex a lot):

• @ Wikipedia
• Hypersexuality: Symptoms of Sexual Addiction
• Symptoms of Hypersexual Disorder

   19. Persistent genital arousal disorder (this is negative, as PGAD can actually cause a person to want to commit suicide as arousal is very unwanted )
    20. If a person identifies as Transgender, he or she may be diagnosed with Body Dysmorphic Disorder or even Borderline Personality Disorder / Histronic Personality Disorder by older, traditional people who still believe this is a mental illness. Some believe this is abnormal and needs to he individual needs to be "fixed" mentally. They believe it is a disorder and  people who "suffer" from it are dysfunctional and need to "overcome" it. Wanting to be the opposite gender and personality disorder are two completely different things. A person who identifies as the opposite sex he or she was born with has nothing to do with a personality disorder or a mental illness.
   21. We are told lies about how masturbation is wrong - 9 Lies About Masturbation We Need to Stop Spreading Immediately
   22.Sigmund Freud has stated numerous ideas  that could be used to oppress a person’s (especially  women’s) sexuality.

23.** Using the restroom is not a crime
24.**Johns Hopkins Psychiatrist: Transgender is ‘Mental Disorder;' Sex Change ‘Biologically Impossible’
25.Chastity/Celibacy/ forced to be celibate/ wanting to be celibate
26.Pray the gay away - Conversion therapy. It is not illegal and there are doctors out there who actually think it is okay.

1. Gay Conversion Therapy (Part 1/3)
2. Gay Conversion Therapy (Part 2/3)
3. Conversion Therapy -Southern Poverty Law Center
4. Bill Maher Talks To Ex-Gay Pastor John Westcott - this guy sounds stupid.
5. Stephen Fry meets an ex-gay therapist - how stupid these “ex-gay” people sound.
6. "Curing" Gays: Understanding Conversion Therapy
7. Gay Conversion Therapy Torture Victim
8. PRAY THE GAY AWAY - EXPOSED
9. #BornPerfect: The Facts About Conversion Therapy
10. "Dr." Kenneth Zucker
11. The actual term "Gender Identity DISORDER" I know it's a "medical" term but it still makes me mad because it implies that  cisgender is "correct" and transgender is a "disorder" and is "wrong" so when they go through their transition it is to "fix" something because ONLY cisgender is "right."
27. Hypoactive sexual desire disorder (tells us we should have sex more)                  28.Chastity/Celibacy/ forced to be celibate/ wanting to be celibate 29.Pressure to have sex before we are ready - as an adult because if we don’t there is something wrong with us.
• Almost 26 and Never Had Sex: The Importance of Radical Self-Love for Older Virgins
30.“Sexual Dysfunctions” - which are usually curable by practicing tantric sex and being open and communicating with your partner, or herbs (maca powder is a GREAT alternative to Viagra) Links to my site's category with great ways to help you out if you suffer from this.
31. How food and sex are similar series by WLI: Can be found @ Chunkealthy Life

          32.What are Sexual Disorders? @ Wellington Treatment - "Sexual disorders include paraphilias (PAs) and Paraphilia related disorders (PRDs). Kafka states that PAs are defined as being intense and recurring expressions of sexually deviant behavior that may cause individual distress or other significant adverse consequences.1 The DSM-IV lists the most common PA disorders as exhibitionism, voyeurism, fetishism, frotteurism, sexual sadism, sexual masochism, and pedophilia.1 PRDs, on the other hand, are defined as compulsive masturbation, pornography dependence, promiscuity, and severe sexual desire." I really hate how they always include pedophilia, but it is a "philia" :(

  

Root

1. A man was arrested for trying to feed the homeless
2. You can be arrested for giving out food
3. You can be arrested for growing food
4. You can be arrested for plants (Gingsing)

Operant Conditioning - "sex /food is bad therefore don't do it and feel shame" (not the purpose of this, but that is why we feel like crap whenever we do something we love)

• Skinner - Operant Conditioning by Saul McLeod 
• Operant Conditioning How Reinforcement and Punishment Modify Behavior By Kendra Cherry
• An Introduction to Operant (Instrumental) Conditioning Citation: Huitt, W., & Hummel, J. (1997)
• @Learning Theories

Classical conditioning "sex /food is bad therefore don't do it and feel shame" (not the purpose of this, but that is why we feel like crap whenever we do something we love) Sex feels good and food taste good;therefore, we do these things. It's psychology. Stop trying to change these natural things into shameful acts

• Classical Conditioning by Saul McLeod @ Simply Psychology
• Classical Conditioning How It Works and a Few Examples of It In Action By Kendra Cherry
• Classical Conditioning @ Study (dot) com
• Classical Conditioning @ Psychology World
• @Learning Theories

8 Celebrities Arrested for Obscenity (and What It Was They Said or Did)

We are even shamed for what gender we identify with or what our body looks like at birth:

• [Pic:] "the story of a healthy baby that made the doctors really anxious because of their micropenis..."
• Canada's Trans* Rights Bill Now Endorses Bathroom Bans
• Using the restroom is not a crime
• **Johns Hopkins Psychiatrist: Transgender is ‘Mental Disorder;' Sex Change ‘Biologically Impossible’
• and many other normal things that society and the medical field tells us is wrong

William James founded of addiction services which is okay, but it also created a path other “addiction” groups like overeaters anonymous and other food and sex addiction groups)

My Choice" – Male Version  from Youtube

Deepika Padukone – "My Choice" Directed By Homi Adajania - Vogue Empower

Kyriarchy

Kyriarchy - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Kyriarchy 101: We’re Not Just Fighting the Patriarchy Anymore — Everyday Feminism
Kyriarchy - Geek Feminism Wiki - Wikia
The patriarchy is dead ... but the kyriarchy lives on | Nichi Hodgson | Opinion | The Guardian
Deeply Problematic: Why I use that word that I use: Kyriarchy, kyriarchal, and why not patriarchy
Kyriarchy - SJWiki

Casual relationship types and differences by WLI (updated jan 2016 )

This is really making me mad how people do not know the difference...

FWB - FWB stands for Friends With Benefits; therefore, it means friends you sleep with. Maybe you two have been friends since birth and he showed you his pee-pee. Or maybe it's someone you have been friends with for a while and feel safe having sex with this person. Maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend broke up with you and you went to your bestie to talk and you guys were horny and slept together and liked it so now you do it if you're bored and the movie you are watching sucks. You guys hang out, love each other and are there for each other emotionally. You'll go over and chill with each others friends,etc. You would ask this person what they thought of your new date. You would smash someone's face in if they hurt them. it's called FRIENDS with benefits for a reason.

Booty call - some chick or dude you probably met at the bar or fb. You call her or him up ONLY to have sex. You two don't hang out, or talk about how you plan to go to college and start your own business. In fact, you don't really care about their life story because they are disposable and you both know it is not going to last long. They are pretty much a free hooker and it's usually short-term.Probably started out as a one-night stand,but they were REALLY good so you got their number for another good time.

One Night Stand - Some person you meet at the bar and you both decide to have some hot sex. It was one time and you don't decide to see each other again. If you do, you say hi but don't screw again because you already had that once before. Been there, done that, time for new peeps to have sew with.

Fling - More than a one night stand and booty call,but less of a relationship but more (however, not as serious as a FWB-since friends are for life) than a friendship. Usually like a long-term relationship, but without the long term commitment. 

A lay at the bar is not a fwb, it would be a one night stand. If you both decide it was so good you want to have it regularly it then becomes a booty call. If you hang out and talk about your likes, dislikes, future plans in school, etc. you are becoming friends and it then turns into an fwb. A fwb can not be a bootycall as you two are actually friends, you both have just decided to add something extra to the mix.

F*ckship:

"Two people engaging in purly sexual activities with no intentions of being friends." - Urban Dictionary

and...

20-Somethings Have Invented a New Relationship Status, and It's Called "Dating Partner"

Whichever one you borh choose, make sure it is agreed open between both parties so no one gets hurt.

Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy by Jill P Weber

"Sextimacy is the effort to find emotional intimacy through sex. I use the term to facilitate communication in therapy because other generalizations-- promiscuous, fast, wild, hooking-up--miss the complexity of the romantic lives of many modern young and adult women. At first Sextimacy can seem like a shortcut to happiness but when it is used habitually the woman is often left with frustration and disappointment. In my book “Having Sex, Wanting Intimacy--Why Women Settle for One-Sided Relationships” I present the stories of others to show how women may become trapped in unfulfilling relationships and how many have learned how to find a better life.

Here are five strategies that will help bring emotional intimacy to a romantic relationship.
1. Recognize your own emotional experiences with your partner. If you feel sad, disappointed, angry, label the emotions. Do not dismiss them. Find the words to describe what you are feeling. Is he receptive? Is he open to your experience even if he doesn’t agree with it? Does he make you feel better when you are upset or does he judge you and make you feel worse about your emotional self? Couples with emotional intimacy generally feel better after expressing their emotions with one another. Even if they do not agree there is a sense of comfort and validation.

2. In the context of Sextimacy and one-sided relationships the willingness to directly communicate your thoughts, needs and desires is essential. If you never say what you are thinking, how will you know if he can give you what you need? Likewise, how can the men in your life get to know the real you if you do not share your innermost thoughts? Work to directly express yourself. If you want to spend more time with your partner, say this. Don’t attempt to make him jealous by flirting with others, don’t angrily attack him. It is a good sign if he is willing to hear you out, express his point of view and negotiate with you. If he laughs you off, makes a joke, starts roughhousing, or makes you feel embarrassed and judged for talking in such an intimate manner— he may not be the prince charming you deserve.

3. Some women ignore when a man indirectly or even directly demonstrates that he is intimacy avoidant. Notice what he is communicating. Are certain topics are off limits with your partner? Are you careful and excessively thoughtful about his reactions before you bring up certain issues with him? Notice if you are talking with your friends more about your upsets than with your partner. Are you afraid or anxious about asking your partner what his level of commitment is in the relationship? These are all signs that there is little emotional intimacy present.

4. Work to accept where your partners are as opposed to working to change them into what you want them to be. Directly communicating where you are in the relationship is important but equally important is hearing and accepting where he is. If you tell your partner that you really like him and he looks away, changes topics, jokes or teases with you, he is letting you know that he is unable or unwilling to reciprocate your level of intimacy. Accept that he is not giving you what you want and move on.