Can help with personal relationships as well. Can also help with manners,etc.
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Showing posts with label Manners. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Manners. Show all posts
Monday, December 29, 2014
Friday, August 8, 2014
When "You look so skinny" does more harm than good
"“Last year, four months after giving birth, I began focusing on getting healthy, eating right, and exercising. Over the course of the next six months I lost a significant amount of weight and I felt good — better than I had in years and years — so I was happy. Here’s what I was not happy about: the fact that everyone I had ever met all of a sudden felt it was appropriate to comment on my physical appearance.....But we have some answers! Let’s start with why it’s so important to STOP talking about each others’ bodies – even in what we assume are nice ways – and then we’ll get to what we can do if we’re falling into a deep pit of appearance obsession that often comes from constant focus on our bodies.
First, you have learned firsthand that it is time to stop body policing. None of us have the responsibility to comment on the look of someone else’s body – not even the “nice” sounding stuff. Not in front of their faces or behind their backs. So often we turn to appearance-based conversation first as a default, and we must reconsider this automatic small talk. This is especially true for girls and women, who grow up hearing from all sides that they are things to be looked at above all else.
So friends, if you know someone who has lost weight and they aren’t publicly speaking about how they did it, don’t feel the need to talk about it. Don’t automatically praise them. Don’t publicly comment on their photos with “You look so skinny!” Just don’t. Because you don’t know if they are working out and eating healthfully or depressed and struggling, or suffering with an eating disorder or resorting to other unhealthy extremes to fit an unhealthy ideal. You just don’t know. And too often, those body-policing compliments of “Oh you look so AMAZING!” are exactly the motivation someone needs to continue down an unhealthy pathway of unsafe diet pills or over-exercising or disordered eating. Even just seeing those body-based comments on someone else’s pictures online over and over again can send someone else down that dangerous pathway. Other times, a disease or other illness could be causing your friend to lose weight beyond their control and “Did you lose weight?!” is the exact wrong type of compliment they want at the moment. We can do so much better than the constant body policing.
It’s time to value the women and girls in our lives for more than their looks. Dig deep next time you want to give a compliment. If you give a looks-based compliment, pair it with a character-based compliment. Say something nice about who they are, what they do, and how much you care about them outside of how they look. When we minimize other females to just their bodies, we forget to remind them of their beautiful talents, characters, and gifts. And we can unknowingly be giving them motivation to stay in unhealthy patterns so they keep “qualifying” for looks-based compliments. We are more than bodies, so let’s make sure to remind each other of that powerful truth."
See the entire article, which makes valid points @ Beauty Refined
First, you have learned firsthand that it is time to stop body policing. None of us have the responsibility to comment on the look of someone else’s body – not even the “nice” sounding stuff. Not in front of their faces or behind their backs. So often we turn to appearance-based conversation first as a default, and we must reconsider this automatic small talk. This is especially true for girls and women, who grow up hearing from all sides that they are things to be looked at above all else.
So friends, if you know someone who has lost weight and they aren’t publicly speaking about how they did it, don’t feel the need to talk about it. Don’t automatically praise them. Don’t publicly comment on their photos with “You look so skinny!” Just don’t. Because you don’t know if they are working out and eating healthfully or depressed and struggling, or suffering with an eating disorder or resorting to other unhealthy extremes to fit an unhealthy ideal. You just don’t know. And too often, those body-policing compliments of “Oh you look so AMAZING!” are exactly the motivation someone needs to continue down an unhealthy pathway of unsafe diet pills or over-exercising or disordered eating. Even just seeing those body-based comments on someone else’s pictures online over and over again can send someone else down that dangerous pathway. Other times, a disease or other illness could be causing your friend to lose weight beyond their control and “Did you lose weight?!” is the exact wrong type of compliment they want at the moment. We can do so much better than the constant body policing.
It’s time to value the women and girls in our lives for more than their looks. Dig deep next time you want to give a compliment. If you give a looks-based compliment, pair it with a character-based compliment. Say something nice about who they are, what they do, and how much you care about them outside of how they look. When we minimize other females to just their bodies, we forget to remind them of their beautiful talents, characters, and gifts. And we can unknowingly be giving them motivation to stay in unhealthy patterns so they keep “qualifying” for looks-based compliments. We are more than bodies, so let’s make sure to remind each other of that powerful truth."
See the entire article, which makes valid points @ Beauty Refined
Sunday, August 3, 2014
Tips, advice for being an assistant (tools for communication. time management)
I am a Executive assistant at Fancy Hands. I want to be the best I can be, so I am doing tons of research. Becoming an EA takes a lot of patience, practice and knowledge about communication, and using Excel. Posting the notes here because using these tips will help with communicating, listening, time management and becoming a better person. Using these tips can also help with manners, etc. Even if you are not interested in becoming a EA, or a PA take a look at these notes.
These are all "how-tos" Will be updated constantly.
Tips, advice for being an assistant
Fancy Hands
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Spreadsheets
These are all "how-tos" Will be updated constantly.
Tips, advice for being an assistant
Fancy Hands
Word:
Grammar:
Spreadsheets
Friday, March 21, 2014
You chose to be Offended
"Taking offense to something was just always a part of our lives. Especially us, Gen Y’s.. I remember kids saying “Back off or I’ll knock you the fuckk out” in like 5th grade!! Lol, now I’m not qualified to say this, but I have a pretty good idea that other generations didn’t talk like that until they were much older or maybe even ever?.. But then again, we’re Gen Y’s and we simply don’t have time for nonsense. Do whatcha gotta do! Even if it means pulling the old fashion Hey Arnold “I’M CRAZY” stunt to let your Bully know what’s really good....
There’s a MUCH more healthier and sane approach to handling offense; and trust me I know it’s a bitch.. Especially when we learned how to fluently cuss out individuals that bothered us before we were taught how to write in cursive. Let’s think about this for a second. What’s the reason why ANYONE would get offended? Answer is… Insecurity.
Example: Someone that you just can’t stand laughs and calls you a “Dumbass” for slipping on ice. You can do three SAFE options to show that you’re SECURE and CONFIDENT.
1)Laugh it off and say “Yeahh that was totally a dumb move on my part.” Humility is healthy folks.
2) Dish back! Say “Oh okay Princess, you’ve never slipped on ice before?!"
3) Be an adult. What do I mean? I mean extend your hand, offer your respect and talk to this person face to face like an adult. Elliot does a tremendous job explaining this.
4) Good ol’ fashion Ignoring will work. Now, ONLY ignore if you ABSOLUTELY mastered the “Art of Apathy” and that you know you can continue taking insults from this person without any problem. However, I do not recommend ignoring someone if they are bothering you. If you really can’t laugh at life, learn to be your own witty person while dishing comebacks, or talk to a person face to face.. Then please please please tell an adult this person is bothering you. Never bottle emotions nor become violent. We hear and see horrific stories on the news all the time about kids that went insane.
BE RESPONSIBLE. USE YOUR HEAD.
This doesn’t dismiss or excuse people to be rude. Because:
There’s a MUCH more healthier and sane approach to handling offense; and trust me I know it’s a bitch.. Especially when we learned how to fluently cuss out individuals that bothered us before we were taught how to write in cursive. Let’s think about this for a second. What’s the reason why ANYONE would get offended? Answer is… Insecurity.
Example: Someone that you just can’t stand laughs and calls you a “Dumbass” for slipping on ice. You can do three SAFE options to show that you’re SECURE and CONFIDENT.
1)Laugh it off and say “Yeahh that was totally a dumb move on my part.” Humility is healthy folks.
2) Dish back! Say “Oh okay Princess, you’ve never slipped on ice before?!"
3) Be an adult. What do I mean? I mean extend your hand, offer your respect and talk to this person face to face like an adult. Elliot does a tremendous job explaining this.
4) Good ol’ fashion Ignoring will work. Now, ONLY ignore if you ABSOLUTELY mastered the “Art of Apathy” and that you know you can continue taking insults from this person without any problem. However, I do not recommend ignoring someone if they are bothering you. If you really can’t laugh at life, learn to be your own witty person while dishing comebacks, or talk to a person face to face.. Then please please please tell an adult this person is bothering you. Never bottle emotions nor become violent. We hear and see horrific stories on the news all the time about kids that went insane.
BE RESPONSIBLE. USE YOUR HEAD.
This doesn’t dismiss or excuse people to be rude. Because:
Friday, February 21, 2014
Golden Rule
"The Golden Rule or ethic of reciprocity is a maxim, ethical code or morality that essentially states either of the following:
One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself. (Positive form)
One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated (Negative form, also known as the Silver Rule)
This concept describes a "reciprocal", or "two-way", relationship between one's self and others that involves both sides equally, and in a mutual fashion.
This concept can be explained from the perspective of psychology, philosophy, sociology and religion. Psychologically, it involves a person empathizing with others. Philosophically, it involves a person perceiving their neighbor as also "an I" or "self." Sociologically, this principle is applicable between individuals, between groups, and also between individuals and groups. (For example, a person living by this rule treats all people with consideration, not just members of his or her in-group). Religion is an integral part of the history of this concept.
As a concept, the Golden Rule has a history that long predates the term "Golden Rule", or "Golden law", as it was called from the 1670s.As a concept of "the ethic of reciprocity," it has its roots in a wide range of world cultures, and is a standard way that different cultures use to resolve conflicts It has a long history, and a great number of prominent religious figures and philosophers have restated its reciprocal, "two-way" nature in various ways (not limited to the above forms).
Rushworth Kidder notes that the Golden Rule can be found in the early contributions of Confucianism (551–479 BC). Kidder notes that this concept's framework appears prominently in many religions, including "Hinduism, Buddhism, Taoism, Zoroastrianism, and the rest of the world's major religions". According to Greg M. Epstein, " 'do unto others' ... is a concept that essentially no religion misses entirely." Simon Blackburn also states that the Golden Rule can be "found in some form in almost every ethical tradition". All versions and forms of the proverbial Golden Rule have one aspect in common: they all demand that people treat others in a manner in which they themselves would like to be treated."
See more
@Wikipedia
One should treat others as one would like others to treat oneself. (Positive form)
One should not treat others in ways that one would not like to be treated (Negative form, also known as the Silver Rule)
This concept describes a "reciprocal", or "two-way", relationship between one's self and others that involves both sides equally, and in a mutual fashion.
This concept can be explained from the perspective of psychology, philosophy, sociology and religion. Psychologically, it involves a person empathizing with others. Philosophically, it involves a person perceiving their neighbor as also "an I" or "self." Sociologically, this principle is applicable between individuals, between groups, and also between individuals and groups. (For example, a person living by this rule treats all people with consideration, not just members of his or her in-group). Religion is an integral part of the history of this concept.
As a concept, the Golden Rule has a history that long predates the term "Golden Rule", or "Golden law", as it was called from the 1670s.As a concept of "the ethic of reciprocity," it has its roots in a wide range of world cultures, and is a standard way that different cultures use to resolve conflicts It has a long history, and a great number of prominent religious figures and philosophers have restated its reciprocal, "two-way" nature in various ways (not limited to the above forms).
Rushworth Kidder notes that the Golden Rule can be found in the early contributions of Confucianism (551–479 BC). Kidder notes that this concept's framework appears prominently in many religions, including "Hinduism, Buddhism, Taoism, Zoroastrianism, and the rest of the world's major religions". According to Greg M. Epstein, " 'do unto others' ... is a concept that essentially no religion misses entirely." Simon Blackburn also states that the Golden Rule can be "found in some form in almost every ethical tradition". All versions and forms of the proverbial Golden Rule have one aspect in common: they all demand that people treat others in a manner in which they themselves would like to be treated."
See more
@Wikipedia
Wednesday, February 19, 2014
Swear2Stop Campain
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"Swear 2 Stop is a campaign which targets parents and adults, to stop swearing primarely around children. I incorporated children into the campaign as a way to connect with the target audience, and get a more personal message across. After researching, I found that swearing starts at a very young age, and that children learn cursing from there parents. This campaign can stop a generation from swearing, and therefore stop it all together. I associated swearing with drug abuse, to enhance its explicit nature, and to signify the effects it can have on children. Both are addictive, and can influence younger generations. As role models, parents should recognize the impact swearing can have on there children."
Your children won't grow up to commit mass murder if you accidentally swear around them but it doesn't sound too good when you swear round that cute guy you like.
"Swear 2 Stop is a campaign which targets parents and adults, to stop swearing primarely around children. I incorporated children into the campaign as a way to connect with the target audience, and get a more personal message across. After researching, I found that swearing starts at a very young age, and that children learn cursing from there parents. This campaign can stop a generation from swearing, and therefore stop it all together. I associated swearing with drug abuse, to enhance its explicit nature, and to signify the effects it can have on children. Both are addictive, and can influence younger generations. As role models, parents should recognize the impact swearing can have on there children."
Your children won't grow up to commit mass murder if you accidentally swear around them but it doesn't sound too good when you swear round that cute guy you like.
Why should I not swear?
"1. Lots of people swear. What's wrong with it?
It depends on why, when and where you are swearing. Swearing can be rude, crude and offensive. It can reflect a bad attitude that hurts your image and your relationships. People might perceive you as an abrasive person who lacks character, maturity, intelligence, manners and emotional control.
2. What if everyone I know swears?
Why not sound a bit more refined than everyone else? Besides, maybe everyone swears, but no one swears everywhere. It isn't appropriate in many situations. To avoid slipping or struggling to find a word to replace that foul word you are accustomed to using, break the cussing habit and practice speaking intelligently.
3. It isn't a crime or a sin, so what harm does it do?
Better to ask, what GOOD does it do? Sometimes it's funny and sometimes it helps you vent anger, but swearing never earns you respect or admiration, enhances your reputation, makes you more pleasant to be with, exhibits your intelligence or vocabulary, or reflects strong character. It doesn't demonstrate respect for others, help you win arguments, set a positive example, get you romantically connected, or help you get hired or promoted.
4. I only swear when I get angry or frustrated.
Is your anger or frustration always justified? Swearing has increased partly because we expect everything to go right in our lives. We aren't coping, we are cussing. Don't let little annoyances and daily aggravations get to you. Instead of taking everything seriously, allow yourself to have greater peace of mind.
5. I think swearing adds color and emphasis to our language.
Just the opposite, because most people keep using the same old swear words. If your vocabulary is limited or you can't swear creatively, try inflections, as in "I was FURious!"
6. I must not offend anyone, because no one ever tells me to watch my language.
It is rare for someone to criticize another person for bad language, but that is not a sign of acceptance. People could be passing judgment on you without telling you how they feel.
7. I'm not going to bother because, quite frankly, I don't give a damn.
Lots of people don't, and that's the problem. We want to do and say whatever we please. Our reluctance to restrain our impulses and to make the effort to be polite is contributing to a coarser, less civil society.
8. I doubt if I could ever stop completely.
If you can reduce the use, that's better than not even trying.
9. Aren't you trying to eliminate swearing from the English language?
No. It is one of the ways we express ourselves and communicate, but we overdo it"
What's Wrong With Swearing?
"Swearing Imposes a Personal Penalty
It gives a bad impression
It makes you unpleasant to be with
It endangers your relationships
It's a tool for whiners and complainers
It reduces respect people have for you
It shows you don't have control
It's a sign of a bad attitude
It discloses a lack of character
It's immature
It reflects ignorance
It sets a bad example
Swearing is Bad for Society
It contributes to the decline of civility
It represents the dumbing down of America
It offends more people than you think
It makes others uncomfortable
It is disrespectful of others
It turns discussions into arguments
It can be a sign of hostility
It can lead to violence
Swearing corrupts the English language
It's abrasive, lazy language
It doesn't communicate clearly
It neglects more meaningful words
It lacks imagination
It has lost its effectiveness "
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It gives a bad impression
It makes you unpleasant to be with
It endangers your relationships
It's a tool for whiners and complainers
It reduces respect people have for you
It shows you don't have control
It's a sign of a bad attitude
It discloses a lack of character
It's immature
It reflects ignorance
It sets a bad example
Swearing is Bad for Society
It contributes to the decline of civility
It represents the dumbing down of America
It offends more people than you think
It makes others uncomfortable
It is disrespectful of others
It turns discussions into arguments
It can be a sign of hostility
It can lead to violence
Swearing corrupts the English language
It's abrasive, lazy language
It doesn't communicate clearly
It neglects more meaningful words
It lacks imagination
It has lost its effectiveness "
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Tuesday, November 19, 2013
This Video Will Have You Completely Rethink How You Conduct Yourself Online And In Person
"We, as human beings, think that through social networks, we’ve somehow become more social creatures.
The problem with this theory is, the more we “connect” online, the less actual human interactions we have, making us actually fairly unsocial.
A new video breaks down exactly how the social aspects of human beings have evolved and transformed, showing how we’ve regressed from a social standpoint.
Shimi Cohen shows exactly what’s wrong with our social structure now, and how we manipulate how we want to be presented to peers, family members, and potential mates on social media, rather than having vulnerable and genuine conversations in real time.
Check out this video below, and take a moment to truly assess how you conduct yourself, both online and in person."
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The Innovation of Loneliness from Shimi Cohen on Vimeo.
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