"Mojo Upgrade is an interactive sex questionnaire for couples to help them discover the fantasies that they might both enjoy together.
Mojo Upgrade is an interactive sex questionnaire for couples. We present a list of sexual fantasies to both partners separately and have them indicate their level of interest. After the couple has finished the survey, we compare the answers. If you both gave a positive response to an activity, then we'll share it; if not, we don’t. That way if your partner is not game to watch midget porn with you, they won't know.
The questionnaire only takes about 10 minutes per partner.
Best of all, it's free (as in beer) and you don't even have to register. Get your partner, and get started. "
Check it out and take the test.
Showing posts with label AltBizSex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label AltBizSex. Show all posts
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Tuesday, March 17, 2015
Partner Selection, Power Dynamics, and Sexual Bargaining in Self-Defined BDSM Couples by Bert Cutler
"The participants at any of the country’s many SM clubs and conferences demonstrate the prevalence of quality long-term committed Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, and Sadistic & Masochistic (BDSM) relationships. This is in contrast to much of the academic and some of the BDSM (bondage & discipline, dominant & submission, and sadomasochism) lifestyle literature, which denies the likelihood of these relationships. This dissertation explores the lives and relationships
of 33 individuals (consisting of 17 heterosexual couples) who defined themselves as active participants in the BDSM lifestyle. Each couple has been in a committed relationship and has practiced sadomasochistic and/or dominant and submissive behaviors as a regular part of their relationship. The relationships are examined in general, how they met and selected each other, the power dynamics within the relationship, and the nature of sexual/SM bargaining within and outside of a BDSM context."
See/Read the pdf
of 33 individuals (consisting of 17 heterosexual couples) who defined themselves as active participants in the BDSM lifestyle. Each couple has been in a committed relationship and has practiced sadomasochistic and/or dominant and submissive behaviors as a regular part of their relationship. The relationships are examined in general, how they met and selected each other, the power dynamics within the relationship, and the nature of sexual/SM bargaining within and outside of a BDSM context."
See/Read the pdf
Sunday, March 15, 2015
What is a chastity belt?
"A chastity belt is a locking item of clothing designed to prevent sexual intercourse or masturbation. Such belts were historically designed for women, ostensibly for the purpose of chastity, to protect women from rape or to dissuade women and their potential sexual partners from sexual temptation.Modern versions of the chastity belt are predominantly, but not exclusively, used in the BDSM community, and chastity belts are now designed for male wearers in addition to female wearers.
According to modern myths, the chastity belt was used as an anti-temptation device during the Crusades. When the knight left for the Holy Lands on the Crusades, his Lady would wear a chastity belt to preserve her faithfulness to him. However, there is no credible evidence that chastity belts existed before the 15th century (more than 100 years after the last Crusade), and their main period of apparent use falls within the Renaissance rather than the Middle Ages. Research into the history of the chastity belt suggests that they were not used until the 16th century, and then only rather rarely; they first became widely available in the form of 19th-century anti-masturbation medical devices.
See more @ Wikipedia
According to modern myths, the chastity belt was used as an anti-temptation device during the Crusades. When the knight left for the Holy Lands on the Crusades, his Lady would wear a chastity belt to preserve her faithfulness to him. However, there is no credible evidence that chastity belts existed before the 15th century (more than 100 years after the last Crusade), and their main period of apparent use falls within the Renaissance rather than the Middle Ages. Research into the history of the chastity belt suggests that they were not used until the 16th century, and then only rather rarely; they first became widely available in the form of 19th-century anti-masturbation medical devices.
See more @ Wikipedia
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
Fifty Shades of Nope: Being Fetishized As A Person of Color in Kink by Vianca Masucci @ Black Girl Dangerous
""Don’t get me wrong: I appreciate everyone’s right to fantasy. I understand that fantasy is derived from cultural influences and inherent sexual hardwiring. No one can control what tunes their flesh flute or, to an extent, what they’ve been exposed to. What worries me is that these archetypes pull from harmful stereotypes that many PoC are working hard to fight against and any attempts at challenging them are met with arguments defending sexual freedom."...
In spite of the copious amounts of shade being thrown at fetishism by the movie, Fifty Shades is inspiring a sex movement that challenges ‘Mericans to indulge their sexual curiosity. But, the new sexual frontier is just as problematic as the old one and subscribes to a system of sexual archetypes that are not only conservative but detrimental to PoC. Watching the movie brought back hella memories of my own excursion into kink and my experiences with this frontier. (Side note: Yes, I did go to see the movie in theaters. But, I bought a ticket for Selma and snuck into Fifty because I have “not one dime” for basic shit.) Sweating like Beck when Kanye approached the stage at the Grammy’s, I nervously walked into my first kink gathering. Within thirty minutes of my arrival, I had been called ‘chocolate’ twice. Within two hours of my arrival, a man asked if he could see my “big black donk”. I responded by telling him that I had too much ass for his “small white dick” and then I left. (Yes, that clapback game is on fleek.)"
See entire article @ black Girl Dangerous
In spite of the copious amounts of shade being thrown at fetishism by the movie, Fifty Shades is inspiring a sex movement that challenges ‘Mericans to indulge their sexual curiosity. But, the new sexual frontier is just as problematic as the old one and subscribes to a system of sexual archetypes that are not only conservative but detrimental to PoC. Watching the movie brought back hella memories of my own excursion into kink and my experiences with this frontier. (Side note: Yes, I did go to see the movie in theaters. But, I bought a ticket for Selma and snuck into Fifty because I have “not one dime” for basic shit.) Sweating like Beck when Kanye approached the stage at the Grammy’s, I nervously walked into my first kink gathering. Within thirty minutes of my arrival, I had been called ‘chocolate’ twice. Within two hours of my arrival, a man asked if he could see my “big black donk”. I responded by telling him that I had too much ass for his “small white dick” and then I left. (Yes, that clapback game is on fleek.)"
See entire article @ black Girl Dangerous
Thursday, February 26, 2015
What does Crymax mean?
Even though people see this as shameful, it's not.Why would it be? Those people who think it is are childish and immature and know nothing about sex.
"The ultimate show of vulnerability during sex. The act of bursting into tears at the point of orgasm or climax. Can be either tears of joy, shame, or immediate regret.
Everything was going well until she crymaxed at the last minute. I didn't know whether to keep pounding away or stop and hug her..."
"To sob or cry after sex
"Taylor was so emotional after sex, he crymaxed"
"When a person cries during an orgasm
"... slept with Brian last night, and he crymaxed on me. "
Credit:Urban Dictionary
"The ultimate show of vulnerability during sex. The act of bursting into tears at the point of orgasm or climax. Can be either tears of joy, shame, or immediate regret.
Everything was going well until she crymaxed at the last minute. I didn't know whether to keep pounding away or stop and hug her..."
"To sob or cry after sex
"Taylor was so emotional after sex, he crymaxed"
"When a person cries during an orgasm
"... slept with Brian last night, and he crymaxed on me. "
Credit:Urban Dictionary
The Emotional Side of Sub Drop @ Submissive Guide
"Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense side of Sub Drop that gets very little attention because for each person it is different and describing how to recover can take many forms.
If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense session."
See the entire article @ Submissive Guide
If not cared for, you could go into depression just from one play session. The endorphins and other hormones released during play leave your body in such a way that it takes time to rebuild the balance of hormones in your system. You could feel like you have a hang over or partied too hard the night before, you could feel lost and depressed for hours or days. You may just want to sleep it off. These are the more extreme forms of Drop. Some people recover in a matter of hours, but others could exhibit signs of Sub Drop for weeks after an intense session."
See the entire article @ Submissive Guide
BDSM 101: Subspace, Aftercare, and Sub-drop (and sometimes Top-drop) @ Chico Munch
"Since the increase of hormones and chemicals has produced a trance-like state, as play ends the submissive may feel out-of-body, detached from reality. As the sub's system stops producing morphine-like drugs, and as the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in again, the sub may feel a deep exhaustion, a sharp drop in temperature, as well as incoherence and un-coordination. In the lifestyle, this is commonly referred to as "drop" or "sub-drop"
Drop is experienced by athletes and adventurers. Drop happens to Tops and Doms, (though this is often less-well-recognized) for pretty much the same reasons as athletes and adventurers. It also happens to people after high stress situations. After an emergency like a car accident or a break-in, people often find that they go through days where they have a feeling of being adrift, rather than how they are used to feeling.
Drop can also happen if play is stopped abruptly. BDSM play is a very vulnerable experience for people. It often involves exposing one's inner-self in ways that one has never before done. Sometimes, inexperienced Tops will begin BDSM play, and then abruptly terminate a scene (perhaps because they rudely decide that someone else would be "more interesting" to play with) and walk away. This can leave the abandoned sub in a *very* down state -- feeling that they engaged their sense of trust to allow a Top to play with them, and that the Top simply let them splatter on the ground.
There is also a different sort of drop, which is a function of encountering contradictions between the ingrained (and often implicit) "rules" that people live their lives by, and the discovery that various things in BDSM make them extremely happy. Usually the last thing that people do upon discovering that they are ecstatically happy doing things which harm no one but which might run contrary to a moral code handed to them as a pre-cognitive child, is to haul out the moral code and examine if following it actually leads to happiness. "
See the entire article @ Chico Munch
Drop is experienced by athletes and adventurers. Drop happens to Tops and Doms, (though this is often less-well-recognized) for pretty much the same reasons as athletes and adventurers. It also happens to people after high stress situations. After an emergency like a car accident or a break-in, people often find that they go through days where they have a feeling of being adrift, rather than how they are used to feeling.
Drop can also happen if play is stopped abruptly. BDSM play is a very vulnerable experience for people. It often involves exposing one's inner-self in ways that one has never before done. Sometimes, inexperienced Tops will begin BDSM play, and then abruptly terminate a scene (perhaps because they rudely decide that someone else would be "more interesting" to play with) and walk away. This can leave the abandoned sub in a *very* down state -- feeling that they engaged their sense of trust to allow a Top to play with them, and that the Top simply let them splatter on the ground.
There is also a different sort of drop, which is a function of encountering contradictions between the ingrained (and often implicit) "rules" that people live their lives by, and the discovery that various things in BDSM make them extremely happy. Usually the last thing that people do upon discovering that they are ecstatically happy doing things which harm no one but which might run contrary to a moral code handed to them as a pre-cognitive child, is to haul out the moral code and examine if following it actually leads to happiness. "
See the entire article @ Chico Munch
What is Sub-Drop? @ Tied up and Ready
"Sub-Drop. It’s a thorny subject that’s for sure and it means different things to different people.
It’s a term for what is more accurately known as an “endorphin crash”. If you’ve had, for example, what’s known as an “impact play” seesion – spanking, caning, beating, flogging, caning, paddling etc, then you will get an endorphin high.
What are endorphins exactly?
Endorphins (“endogenous morphine”) are endogenous opioid peptides that function as
It’s a term for what is more accurately known as an “endorphin crash”. If you’ve had, for example, what’s known as an “impact play” seesion – spanking, caning, beating, flogging, caning, paddling etc, then you will get an endorphin high.
What are endorphins exactly?
Endorphins (“endogenous morphine”) are endogenous opioid peptides that function as
Monday, February 23, 2015
Partner Selection, Power Dynamics, and Sexual Bargaining in Self-Defined BDSM Couples by Bert Cutler
"SM has a long history of being poorly understood in Western culture. Until the last 20 years, Sadomasochism (SM) was believed by academia to be restricted almost exclusively to the male gender. Much of the literature today continues to reflect the presumption that relationships between individuals with an SM orientation are rare and non-functional. My personal observations have been that SM relationships are numerous and often highly functional. The nature of this study is to interview
individuals in long term SM relationships and evaluate the dynamics of these relationships, including partner selection, power dynamics, and sexual bargaining."
Read the entire mini booklet
individuals in long term SM relationships and evaluate the dynamics of these relationships, including partner selection, power dynamics, and sexual bargaining."
Read the entire mini booklet
Monday, February 16, 2015
Confessions of an empathic sadist by WLI
Because I love tantric sex and BDSM <3
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Empath:
@my site Calm Min Open Heart
Sadist:
@my site Superstar harlot:Saturday, February 14, 2015
"More on "Fifty Shades of Grey" as the movie makes history tonight and stirs up so much controversy..." by Anne Rice
She has a point. I feel she is talking about people who think that FSOG is misogynistic because she is "doing what a man tells her to do." People feel any form of BDSM is misogynistic and that is not true. Consent is sexy, being ordered around and not liking it is different from being ordered around and knowing a safe word will stop the act at any time. Real BDSM is not a man ordering a woman around , it is a man ordering a woman around but she is in complete control and can stop the scene at any time There is a difference between a person actually raping you and knowing he or she will stop as soon as you say the "safe" word you both agreed on. At any time does the other person not stop after the safe word is said, or when you feel uncomfortable, that is a bad situation.F SOG seems like a good book, but people need to recognize abuse and BDSM and the differences between them.
"More on "Fifty Shades of Grey" as the movie makes history tonight and stirs up so much controversy. I'm an ardent feminist. I believe completely in the right of women to their own sexual fantasies. I believe in their right to write and read sexual fantasies, and I will always defend them (and men) against efforts to politicize or sanitize or patrol their sexual fantasies. There is inside of each of us a secret place where our desires rule without interference. That secret place is our imagination. Lecturing women on their fantasies, telling them NOT to like "Fifty Shades" because it includes abuse is just as bad, in my opinion, as telling women that "nice girls" don't imagine being kissed, loved, touched, ravaged, swept off their feet. "Nice girls" can imagine anything they want. And in literature, people can write whatever they want. Men have always enjoyed fantasies of being tied up and whipped by dominatrices. They have always had their erotica. They have always found their way to expensive brothels where professional dominatrices act out such rituals for their pleasure. Are women not equal to men? Don't women have the same rights as men? I'm shocked by all the preaching about "Fifty Shades." I stand up for women, for their freedom, for their rights, for their imaginations, their hearts."
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"More on "Fifty Shades of Grey" as the movie makes history tonight and stirs up so much controversy. I'm an ardent feminist. I believe completely in the right of women to their own sexual fantasies. I believe in their right to write and read sexual fantasies, and I will always defend them (and men) against efforts to politicize or sanitize or patrol their sexual fantasies. There is inside of each of us a secret place where our desires rule without interference. That secret place is our imagination. Lecturing women on their fantasies, telling them NOT to like "Fifty Shades" because it includes abuse is just as bad, in my opinion, as telling women that "nice girls" don't imagine being kissed, loved, touched, ravaged, swept off their feet. "Nice girls" can imagine anything they want. And in literature, people can write whatever they want. Men have always enjoyed fantasies of being tied up and whipped by dominatrices. They have always had their erotica. They have always found their way to expensive brothels where professional dominatrices act out such rituals for their pleasure. Are women not equal to men? Don't women have the same rights as men? I'm shocked by all the preaching about "Fifty Shades." I stand up for women, for their freedom, for their rights, for their imaginations, their hearts."
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Friday, February 13, 2015
25 Facts About BDSM That You Won’t Learn In “Fifty Shades Of Grey”
"1. First things first: Here’s what BDSM actually stands for:
BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M). The terms are lumped together that way because BDSM can be a lot of different things to different people with different preferences, BDSM writer and educator Clarisse Thorn, author of The S&M Feminist, tells BuzzFeed Life. Most of the time, a person’s interests fall into one or two of those categories, rather than all of them."
2. It doesn’t always involve sex, but it can
3. There is nothing inherently wrong or damaged with people if they’re into it.
4. Know that you can always say no.
5. BDSMers are just as stable as people who prefer vanilla sex.
6. Fifty Shades of Grey is considered very cringeworthy in the BDSM community.
7. It’s not all whips and chains all the time — or ever, if that’s not your thing.
8. BDSM encounters are called “scenes.”
BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M). The terms are lumped together that way because BDSM can be a lot of different things to different people with different preferences, BDSM writer and educator Clarisse Thorn, author of The S&M Feminist, tells BuzzFeed Life. Most of the time, a person’s interests fall into one or two of those categories, rather than all of them."
2. It doesn’t always involve sex, but it can
3. There is nothing inherently wrong or damaged with people if they’re into it.
4. Know that you can always say no.
5. BDSMers are just as stable as people who prefer vanilla sex.
6. Fifty Shades of Grey is considered very cringeworthy in the BDSM community.
7. It’s not all whips and chains all the time — or ever, if that’s not your thing.
8. BDSM encounters are called “scenes.”
Thursday, February 12, 2015
This is why 50 shades of grey is completely sh*t
It'sokay to read FSOG and enjoy it but do not think that is how BDSM relationships work.
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Wednesday, February 11, 2015
Friday, January 16, 2015
Check out Playground Conference
"Playground brings together the brightest minds in sexuality education, activism, and media to examine the ways in which the sexual and erotic play a part in our everyday lives. Everyone is invited to attend from those looking to educate to those looking for education. And most importantly, those looking to have FUN!
We offer panel discussions, intimate workshops, and presentations. Meet our sexy vendors and exhibitors all weekend long, and join us for fun social activities including a sexy talent show, movie night, & games. Our Friday night opening keynote interview with author Kaleigh Trace, is open to the public for free. Stop by and check out the event on us! Dr. Jessica O’Reilly kicks off the conference as our opening plenary on Saturday.
It’s our mission to create a fun, safe(r), welcome, and inclusive space. Our community is open, whether you’re a veteran of sexuality based events or a first-timer looking for a new place to call home. Playground is where people of all genders, sexualities, races, and backgrounds can come together to learn from and share with each other. Join us!"
We offer panel discussions, intimate workshops, and presentations. Meet our sexy vendors and exhibitors all weekend long, and join us for fun social activities including a sexy talent show, movie night, & games. Our Friday night opening keynote interview with author Kaleigh Trace, is open to the public for free. Stop by and check out the event on us! Dr. Jessica O’Reilly kicks off the conference as our opening plenary on Saturday.
It’s our mission to create a fun, safe(r), welcome, and inclusive space. Our community is open, whether you’re a veteran of sexuality based events or a first-timer looking for a new place to call home. Playground is where people of all genders, sexualities, races, and backgrounds can come together to learn from and share with each other. Join us!"
Wednesday, December 24, 2014
Pornhub (18+) Educational usage
The only site i could find where you could save your favorite porn stars instead of just their (individual) videos. I use this for education use. It helps watching them.
My account (no worries, no videos or pics of me) 18+
My account (no worries, no videos or pics of me) 18+
Meaning of Nymphetamine?
A studio album by Cradle of Filth, but I love the word...
"1: comes from the marraige of two words... nymphette and... amphetamine. Loosely translated, sex and drugs combine to describe an unhealthy, beast-like addiction to the classical fairer gender or one female ideal in particular. A dark Goddess figure. If women have a sexual, venusian substance, then this relates to the abuse of that substance in vast and unhealthy amounts. "
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"1: comes from the marraige of two words... nymphette and... amphetamine. Loosely translated, sex and drugs combine to describe an unhealthy, beast-like addiction to the classical fairer gender or one female ideal in particular. A dark Goddess figure. If women have a sexual, venusian substance, then this relates to the abuse of that substance in vast and unhealthy amounts. "
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