She has a point. I feel she is talking about people who think that FSOG is misogynistic because she is "doing what a man tells her to do." People feel any form of BDSM is misogynistic and that is not true. Consent is sexy, being ordered around and not liking it is different from being ordered around and knowing a safe word will stop the act at any time. Real BDSM is not a man ordering a woman around , it is a man ordering a woman around but she is in complete control and can stop the scene at any time There is a difference between a person actually raping you and knowing he or she will stop as soon as you say the "safe" word you both agreed on. At any time does the other person not stop after the safe word is said, or when you feel uncomfortable, that is a bad situation.F SOG seems like a good book, but people need to recognize abuse and BDSM and the differences between them.
"More on "Fifty Shades of Grey" as the movie makes history tonight and stirs up so much controversy. I'm an ardent feminist. I believe completely in the right of women to their own sexual fantasies. I believe in their right to write and read sexual fantasies, and I will always defend them (and men) against efforts to politicize or sanitize or patrol their sexual fantasies. There is inside of each of us a secret place where our desires rule without interference. That secret place is our imagination. Lecturing women on their fantasies, telling them NOT to like "Fifty Shades" because it includes abuse is just as bad, in my opinion, as telling women that "nice girls" don't imagine being kissed, loved, touched, ravaged, swept off their feet. "Nice girls" can imagine anything they want. And in literature, people can write whatever they want. Men have always enjoyed fantasies of being tied up and whipped by dominatrices. They have always had their erotica. They have always found their way to expensive brothels where professional dominatrices act out such rituals for their pleasure. Are women not equal to men? Don't women have the same rights as men? I'm shocked by all the preaching about "Fifty Shades." I stand up for women, for their freedom, for their rights, for their imaginations, their hearts."
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