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Showing posts with label Bullying. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bullying. Show all posts
Thursday, June 25, 2015
Monday, April 27, 2015
Check out BackBoneZone
"The Backbone Zone project is an innovative approach to bystander intervention, and is about helping people recognize the actions that everyone can take to change the world they live in.
Recognizing sexist and homophobic language, realizing that it has an impact, encouraging students to choose different words, and giving them the skills to be active bystanders when
they hear sexist and homophobic language: these are steps that each one of us can take to end gender-stereotypes, and to help end sexual violence.
Everybody has a backbone. The Backbone Zone project is a campaign that speaks directly to students, helping them to find—and use—their backbones"
Check out BackBoneZone
Recognizing sexist and homophobic language, realizing that it has an impact, encouraging students to choose different words, and giving them the skills to be active bystanders when
they hear sexist and homophobic language: these are steps that each one of us can take to end gender-stereotypes, and to help end sexual violence.
Everybody has a backbone. The Backbone Zone project is a campaign that speaks directly to students, helping them to find—and use—their backbones"
Check out BackBoneZone
Monday, April 6, 2015
Saturday, April 4, 2015
Man claims to be the new Ginuwine!/ Stop bullying people because they want to sing
This dude was doing his thing and got put down. Who cares what he sounds like. Music isn't just for one voice, it's for anyone who wants to sing. Listen, if someone doesn't sound beautiful when singing who cares. It is a form of bullying. Music can be anything or sound like anything. Stop making people feel like dirt because they don't fit your standard of what music "should" sound like.
Man claims to be the new Ginuwine!Man claims to be the new Ginuwine & better than the original. Do u agree?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zPg6zpz8TnI
Posted by ROCK-SOLID on Sunday, March 8, 2015
Tuesday, March 10, 2015
What is/ Who is Champion of Choices/Marc Nero?
"Champion of Choices empowers students to make positive choices and has presented the popular “Choices” production at more than 1000 schools worldwide to more than half-a-million people. Serious issues such as bullying, peer pressure, substance abuse and suicide are presented in a way that touches listeners at a “heart level.” Students are inspired to treat themselves and others with respect, dream big, achieve goals, and cherish relationships. Champion of Choices’ compelling message evokes personal reflection, laughter and tears, and also instills HOPE. Students and faculty describe the “Choices” presentation as life changing.
The exciting Champion of Choices presentation:
Thursday, January 29, 2015
"concerned people" who are actually bigots hide behind...by WLI
Homophobes /transphobes hide behind the Bible even though many argue it has been taken out of context completely and have evidence to prove that. Plus, Jesus and God loves everyone.
Racists hide behind the Bell Curve starting it's "real" science. And they preach those facts about how certain neighborhoods have a higher crime rate because of race, not because of poverty or because of stereotyping which prevents people from getting a job,etc.
People who hate fat people hide behind "it's unhealthy" even though there have been numerous reports stating otherwise.
See a pattern?
So, never let anyone shame you...
They are a bigot no matter how much they try to hide behind "evidence" (by the way that "evidence" is usually outdated and incorrect and from sources benefiting from something)
Racists hide behind the Bell Curve starting it's "real" science. And they preach those facts about how certain neighborhoods have a higher crime rate because of race, not because of poverty or because of stereotyping which prevents people from getting a job,etc.
People who hate fat people hide behind "it's unhealthy" even though there have been numerous reports stating otherwise.
See a pattern?
So, never let anyone shame you...
They are a bigot no matter how much they try to hide behind "evidence" (by the way that "evidence" is usually outdated and incorrect and from sources benefiting from something)
Wednesday, January 28, 2015
Tuesday, December 9, 2014
CBS WKBT News Anchor's On-Air Response to Viewer
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- ‘I’m in no position to bully her’: Man who shamed 'fat' news anchor finally apologizes (and admits he was obese as a child)
- Man who fat-shamed news anchor finally apologizes, admits he was obese as a child: ‘I’m in no position to bully her’
- Overweight TV Anchor Jennifer Livingston Responds to Viewer ‘Bully’
- ‘I’m in no position to bully her’: Man who shamed 'fat' news anchor finally apologizes (and admits he was obese as a child) @ Daily Mail
Thursday, October 30, 2014
Friday, September 5, 2014
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
My FB "like" pages related to anti-bullying
Facebook list of all the pages I have "liked" related to vegan / eating healthy topics, schools, advice, events, people, music, etc. Too much to put on here one-by-one, so I put them in a list and am putting the link here. Check them out!
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
School Bullying: Do Adult Survivors Perceive Long-Term Effects? by Nicholas Carlisle
"This is a pilot study of 15 adult males, older than age 23, who were bullied at schools in the United States, the United Kingdom, and Australia. All but 1 of the 15 participants reported having been bullied at school on average once a week or more, the majority for at least 5 years. Six of the participants were bullied at boarding school. The study is qualitative, with quantitative evaluation of survey data. The participants attribute significant and lasting effects to their school bullying, notably in high levels of shame, anxiety, and relational difficulties as adults. This pilot study suggests that in some cases school bullying is perceived as causing more wide-ranging long-term effects than commonly understood and that these effects may be similar to those experienced by survivors of child abuse. "
Carlisle, N., & Rofes, E. (January 01, 2007). School Bullying: Do Adult Survivors Perceive Long-Term Effects?. Traumatology, 13, 1, 16-26.
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Carlisle, N., & Rofes, E. (January 01, 2007). School Bullying: Do Adult Survivors Perceive Long-Term Effects?. Traumatology, 13, 1, 16-26.
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School Bullying: Do Adult Survivors Perceive Long-Term Effects? by Nicholas Carlisle
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Drama queens, saviours, rescuers, feigners and attention-seekers.Attention-seeking personality disorders,victim syndrome, insecurity and centre of attention behaviour
"The need for attention
Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally mature person doesn't need to go hunting for these; they gain it naturally from their daily life, especially from their work and from stable relationships. Daniel Goleman calls emotional maturity emotional intelligence, or EQ; he believes, and I agree, that EQ is a much better indicator of a person's character and value than intelligence quotient, or IQ.
The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are.
Attention-seeking behaviour is surprisingly common. Being the centre of attention alleviates feelings of insecurity and inadequacy but the relief is temporary as the underlying problem remains unaddressed: low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and consequent low levels of self-worth and self-love.
Insecure and emotionally immature people often exhibit bullying behaviours, especially manipulation and deception. These are necessary in order to obtain attention which would not otherwise be forthcoming. Bullies and harassers have the emotional age of a young child and will exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation to avoid exposure of their true nature and to evade accountability and sanction. This page lists some of the most common tactics bullies and manipulators employ to gain attention for themselves. An attention-seeker may exhibit several of the methods listed below.
Attention-seeking is particularly noticeable with females so I've used the pronoun "she". Males also exhibit attention-seeking behaviour.
Attention seekers commonly exploit the suffering of others to gain attention for themselves. Or they may exploit their own suffering, or alleged suffering. In extreme forms, such as in Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy, the attention-seeker will deliberately cause suffering to others as a means of gaining attention.
The sufferer: this might include feigning or exaggerating illness, playing on an injury, or perhaps causing or inviting injury, in extreme cases going as far as losing a limb. Severe cases may meet the diagnostic criteria for Munchausen Syndrome (also know as Factitious Disorder). The illness or injury becomes a vehicle for gaining sympathy and thus attention. The attention-seeker excels in manipulating people through their emotions, especially that of guilt. It's very difficult not to feel sorry for someone who relates a plausible tale of suffering in a sob story or "poor me" drama.
The saviour: in attention-seeking personality disorders like Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP, also known as Factitious Disorder By Proxy) the person, usually female, creates opportunities to be centre of attention by intentionally causing harm to others and then being their saviour, by saving their life, and by being such a caring, compassionate person. Few people realise the injury was deliberate. The MSBP mother or nurse may kill several babies before suspicions are aroused. When not in saviour mode, the saviour may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person or persons she is saving.
The rescuer: particularly common in family situations, she's the one who will dash in and "rescue" people whenever the moment is opportune - to herself, that is. She then gains gratification from basking in the glory of her humanitarian actions. She will prey on any person suffering misfortune, infirmity, illness, injury, or anyone who has a vulnerability. The act of rescue and thus the opportunities for gaining attention can be enhanced if others are excluded from the act of rescue; this helps create a dependency relationship between the rescuer and rescued which can be exploited for further acts of rescue (and attention) later. When not in rescue mode, the rescuer may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person she is rescuing.
The organiser: she may present herself as the one in charge, the one organising everything, the one who is reliable and dependable, the one people can always turn to. However, the objective is not to help people (this is only a means to an end) but to always be the centre of attention.
The manipulator: she may exploit family relationships, manipulating others with guilt and distorting perceptions; although she may not harm people physically, she causes everyone to suffer emotional injury. Vulnerable family members are favourite targets. A common attention-seeking ploy is to claim she is being persecuted, victimised, excluded, isolated or ignored by another family member or group, perhaps insisting she is the target of a campaign of exclusion or harassment.
The mind-poisoner: adept at poisoning peoples' minds by manipulating their perceptions of others, especially against the current target.
The drama queen: every incident or opportunity, no matter how insignificant, is exploited, exaggerated and if necessary distorted to become an event of dramatic proportions. Everything is elevated to crisis proportions. Histrionics may be present where the person feels she is not the centre of attention but should be. Inappropriate flirtatious behaviour may also be present.
The busy bee: this individual is the busiest person in the world if her constant retelling of her life is to be believed. Everyday events which are regarded as normal by normal people take on epic proportions as everyone is invited to simultaneously admire and commiserate with this oh-so-busy person who never has a moment to herself, never has time to sit down, etc. She's never too busy, though, to tell you how busy she is.
Human beings are social creatures and need social interaction, feedback, and validation of their worth. The emotionally mature person doesn't need to go hunting for these; they gain it naturally from their daily life, especially from their work and from stable relationships. Daniel Goleman calls emotional maturity emotional intelligence, or EQ; he believes, and I agree, that EQ is a much better indicator of a person's character and value than intelligence quotient, or IQ.
The emotionally immature person, however, has low levels of self-esteem and self-confidence and consequently feels insecure; to counter these feelings of insecurity they will spend a large proportion of their lives creating situations in which they become the centre of attention. It may be that the need for attention is inversely proportional to emotional maturity, therefore anyone indulging in attention-seeking behaviours is telling you how emotionally immature they are.
Attention-seeking behaviour is surprisingly common. Being the centre of attention alleviates feelings of insecurity and inadequacy but the relief is temporary as the underlying problem remains unaddressed: low self-confidence and low self-esteem, and consequent low levels of self-worth and self-love.
Insecure and emotionally immature people often exhibit bullying behaviours, especially manipulation and deception. These are necessary in order to obtain attention which would not otherwise be forthcoming. Bullies and harassers have the emotional age of a young child and will exhibit temper tantrums, deceit, lying and manipulation to avoid exposure of their true nature and to evade accountability and sanction. This page lists some of the most common tactics bullies and manipulators employ to gain attention for themselves. An attention-seeker may exhibit several of the methods listed below.
Attention seeking methods
Attention-seeking is particularly noticeable with females so I've used the pronoun "she". Males also exhibit attention-seeking behaviour.
Attention seekers commonly exploit the suffering of others to gain attention for themselves. Or they may exploit their own suffering, or alleged suffering. In extreme forms, such as in Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy, the attention-seeker will deliberately cause suffering to others as a means of gaining attention.
The sufferer: this might include feigning or exaggerating illness, playing on an injury, or perhaps causing or inviting injury, in extreme cases going as far as losing a limb. Severe cases may meet the diagnostic criteria for Munchausen Syndrome (also know as Factitious Disorder). The illness or injury becomes a vehicle for gaining sympathy and thus attention. The attention-seeker excels in manipulating people through their emotions, especially that of guilt. It's very difficult not to feel sorry for someone who relates a plausible tale of suffering in a sob story or "poor me" drama.
The saviour: in attention-seeking personality disorders like Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy (MSBP, also known as Factitious Disorder By Proxy) the person, usually female, creates opportunities to be centre of attention by intentionally causing harm to others and then being their saviour, by saving their life, and by being such a caring, compassionate person. Few people realise the injury was deliberate. The MSBP mother or nurse may kill several babies before suspicions are aroused. When not in saviour mode, the saviour may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person or persons she is saving.
The rescuer: particularly common in family situations, she's the one who will dash in and "rescue" people whenever the moment is opportune - to herself, that is. She then gains gratification from basking in the glory of her humanitarian actions. She will prey on any person suffering misfortune, infirmity, illness, injury, or anyone who has a vulnerability. The act of rescue and thus the opportunities for gaining attention can be enhanced if others are excluded from the act of rescue; this helps create a dependency relationship between the rescuer and rescued which can be exploited for further acts of rescue (and attention) later. When not in rescue mode, the rescuer may be resentful, perhaps even contemptuous, of the person she is rescuing.
The organiser: she may present herself as the one in charge, the one organising everything, the one who is reliable and dependable, the one people can always turn to. However, the objective is not to help people (this is only a means to an end) but to always be the centre of attention.
The manipulator: she may exploit family relationships, manipulating others with guilt and distorting perceptions; although she may not harm people physically, she causes everyone to suffer emotional injury. Vulnerable family members are favourite targets. A common attention-seeking ploy is to claim she is being persecuted, victimised, excluded, isolated or ignored by another family member or group, perhaps insisting she is the target of a campaign of exclusion or harassment.
The mind-poisoner: adept at poisoning peoples' minds by manipulating their perceptions of others, especially against the current target.
The drama queen: every incident or opportunity, no matter how insignificant, is exploited, exaggerated and if necessary distorted to become an event of dramatic proportions. Everything is elevated to crisis proportions. Histrionics may be present where the person feels she is not the centre of attention but should be. Inappropriate flirtatious behaviour may also be present.
The busy bee: this individual is the busiest person in the world if her constant retelling of her life is to be believed. Everyday events which are regarded as normal by normal people take on epic proportions as everyone is invited to simultaneously admire and commiserate with this oh-so-busy person who never has a moment to herself, never has time to sit down, etc. She's never too busy, though, to tell you how busy she is.
Tuesday, July 1, 2014
10 Signs Your Girlfriend or Wife is an Emotional Bully
Does your partner, or even yourself have any of these traits. Recognize the problems and change them!
"If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their girlfriend/wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.
Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?
1) Bullying
2) Unreasonable expectations.
3) Verbal attacks
4) Gaslighting. “I didn’t do that. I didn’t say that. I don’t know what you’re talking about. It wasn’t that bad. You’re imagining things. Stop making things up.”
5) Unpredictable responses
6) Constant Chaos
7) Emotional Blackmail.
8 Rejection She ignores you, won’t look at you when you’re in the same room, gives you the cold shoulder, withholds affection, withholds sex, declines or puts down your ideas, invitations, suggestions, and pushes you away when you try to be close
9) Withholding affection and sex.
10) Isolating.
See descriptions of each sign at Shrink4Men
"If so, you’re probably involved with a woman who is an emotionally abusive bully. Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship. They describe the relationship and their girlfriend/wife using other terms like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile. If you use words like this to describe your relationship, odds are you’re being emotionally abused.
Do you recognize any of the following behaviors?
1) Bullying
2) Unreasonable expectations.
3) Verbal attacks
4) Gaslighting. “I didn’t do that. I didn’t say that. I don’t know what you’re talking about. It wasn’t that bad. You’re imagining things. Stop making things up.”
5) Unpredictable responses
6) Constant Chaos
7) Emotional Blackmail.
8 Rejection She ignores you, won’t look at you when you’re in the same room, gives you the cold shoulder, withholds affection, withholds sex, declines or puts down your ideas, invitations, suggestions, and pushes you away when you try to be close
9) Withholding affection and sex.
10) Isolating.
See descriptions of each sign at Shrink4Men
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Sunday, June 8, 2014
Thursday, May 29, 2014
Friday, May 9, 2014
European douchebag vs Sikh woman about gender
"A Reddit user going by the handle "european_douchebag" posted a surreptitious photo of a Sikh woman with the caption "i'm not sure what to conclude from this." The user's apparent confusion stems from the fact that the woman—bound by her religion not to cut her hair or alter her body—has an abundance of dark, untrimmed facial hair. The mind of european_douchebag was SO INCREDIBLY BLOWN by the fact that women have hair on their bodies—and, yes, faces—and that some women are bold, self-assured, and pious enough not to cave to western beauty standards (and gender expectations), there was nothing for him to do but post her photo online and wait for the abuse to flood in.
But then something totally lovely and unexpected happened. The woman in the photo responded:
"Hey, guys. This is Balpreet Kaur, the girl from the picture. I actually didn't know about this until one of my friends told on facebook. If the OP wanted a picture, they could have just asked and I could have smiled However, I'm not embarrased or even humiliated by the attention [negative and positve] that this picture is getting because, it's who I am. Yes, I'm a baptized Sikh woman with facial hair. Yes, I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women.
However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body - it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being [which is genderless, actually] and, must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will. Just as a child doesn't reject the gift of his/her parents, Sikhs do not reject the body that has been given to us. By crying 'mine, mine' and changing this body-tool, we are essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us. By transcending societal views of beauty, I believe that I can focus more on my actions.
But then something totally lovely and unexpected happened. The woman in the photo responded:
"Hey, guys. This is Balpreet Kaur, the girl from the picture. I actually didn't know about this until one of my friends told on facebook. If the OP wanted a picture, they could have just asked and I could have smiled However, I'm not embarrased or even humiliated by the attention [negative and positve] that this picture is getting because, it's who I am. Yes, I'm a baptized Sikh woman with facial hair. Yes, I realize that my gender is often confused and I look different than most women.
However, baptized Sikhs believe in the sacredness of this body - it is a gift that has been given to us by the Divine Being [which is genderless, actually] and, must keep it intact as a submission to the divine will. Just as a child doesn't reject the gift of his/her parents, Sikhs do not reject the body that has been given to us. By crying 'mine, mine' and changing this body-tool, we are essentially living in ego and creating a seperateness between ourselves and the divinity within us. By transcending societal views of beauty, I believe that I can focus more on my actions.
Tuesday, April 1, 2014
Valentine Road
"On February 12, 2008, in Oxnard, California, eighth-grade student Brandon McInerney shot his classmate Larry King twice in the back of the head during first period. When Larry died two days later, his murder shocked the nation.
Was this a hate crime, one perpetrated by a budding neo-Nazi whose masculinity was threatened by an effeminate gay kid who may have had a crush on him? Or was there even more to it? Looking beyond all the copious news coverage of this tragic event, Valentine Road tells the story of two victims: the deceased and the murderer. With keen insight, the film connects the human wreckage of Larry's and Brandon's troubled lives-both physically abused, both from broken homes, and both searching for a sense of belonging."
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Was this a hate crime, one perpetrated by a budding neo-Nazi whose masculinity was threatened by an effeminate gay kid who may have had a crush on him? Or was there even more to it? Looking beyond all the copious news coverage of this tragic event, Valentine Road tells the story of two victims: the deceased and the murderer. With keen insight, the film connects the human wreckage of Larry's and Brandon's troubled lives-both physically abused, both from broken homes, and both searching for a sense of belonging."
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