"Sexuality is a spectrum and between asexuality (lacking sexual attraction) and other common
orientations (with average or expected levels or frequency of sexual attraction) there is an area
that people may fall into where they are not asexual but they feel dissociated from the rest of
society.
This is known as the grey area and is most well known in the asexual community. The feeling of
being different from others prompts people in the grey area to associate with others who feel
similarly abnormal in society or they relate to asexuality since their own sexual nature is closest to
this than to any other.
As a result of inclusion into the asexual community, people who fall into this area usually identify
as “grey asexual” or simply “grey-a”. They may associate with this for several reasons,
including
~ Only experiencing sexual attraction rarely or under very specific circumstances.
~ Experiencing sexual attraction but without the motivation to act on it.
~ Experiencing sexual attraction but not placing a high importance on sexuality.
One particular subcategory that is so well known that it has its own name (and is often considered
separately from the rest of the grey area) is Demisexuality. This particular variation is defined as
only experiencing sexual attraction to a specific person after the creation of a strong emotional
bond (such as falling in love) but otherwise being functionally asexual. This is different to
monogamy in that the latter is the practice of being faithful to one partner while, in the most case,
still able to experience sexual attraction to other people.
People who are demisexual or grey-a can also be any other orientation depending on who their
sexual attraction is or potentially is regarding. Some, especially those who have only experienced
sexual attraction a few times in their lives, prefer to identify more closely to asexuality and only
disclose more details to people on a need to know basis"
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