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Any natural (not Splenda or any artificial sweetener...ew.) sweetener - Maple Syrup, Pure Cane Sugar (from a trusted company as companies can lie their way around it and trick consumers into thinking their sugar is pure cane when it isn't), Sucanat, Coconut Sugar, etc.
Replace butter or margarine with:
Coconut oil
Olive oil
Hazelnut oil
Almond Oil
Earth Balance buttery spread**Recommended
Replace milk with non-dairy milk
Almond milk would probably be best, but there are tons of options it depends on your taste.