1. Don’t rape people
2. When someone doesn’t want to have sex with you and so you don’t, talk about it.
3. When someone tells you about pressuring or tricking someone into sex (and you’re in a situation where it’s safe to do so), call them the hell out on it
4. When you see something that looks abusive or nonconsensual going on, don’t turn your back.
5. Ask before touching people
6. Negotiate sex!
7. Re-negotiate sex!
While I don’t think every step of “can I kiss you now?” is necessary in a long-term relationship (although [my parenter] Rowdy and I really do ask every time about intercourse), it’s important to keep talking about what you want and don’t want. You’re not strangers anymore, no, but you’re also not merged into the same person. Keep active consent alive in your relationships.
8. Learn to love consent.
9. Learn to appreciate “no.”
10. Talk about consent.
11. Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable — that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no — all the time.
Beyond what’s necessary for their health and education (and even that touches iffy territory), I don’t believe in doing this to kids, either. The size and social-authority advantages an adult has over kids shouldn’t be used to force them to play games or accept hugs or go down the big slide. That sets a bad, scary precedent about the sort of thing it’s okay to use your advantages over someone for."
See the entire descriptions to each at The Frisky