What to Do When You’ve Been Humiliated

"Sternberg’s first tip is to realize that all sorts of people have had experiences as bad as yours – or even worse – and they may be some of the people you least expect.

1. Realize you are not alone. “If you can find people who have had a similar crisis to your own, talk to them.”
2. You have to be resilient, not just smart. Sometimes what separates successful people from those who fail is not talent, but the willingness to keep coming back after terrible setbacks, rather than giving up.
3. Most of the time, it’s nothing personal. Success is often about a fit between you and a particular place or situation. If you don’t fit, don’t take it personally – just move on to a better fit.
4. Learn from the experience.
5. Seek out a support network to help you move on.
6. Use any downtime you have to do something you really enjoy.
7. Think twice before striking back. “Your cause may be just. But the more relevant question is whether plotting your revenge is the best use of your time, energy, reputation, and likely, money. Wouldn’t it be wiser to focus on plotting a new future for yourself?”
8. Don’t hide. “You need to affirm for people, and perhaps for yourself, who you are and what you stand for. And you need to show people that the crisis has not destroyed you…”
9. View the crisis as an opportunity. For example, you can use it as an opportunity to pursue something you love.
10. Move on. Don’t wallow in your humiliation. Plan for the future."

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@Psychology Today